InfuzerM3
09-30-2004, 03:41 AM
So today my girlfriend and I ended our relationship. this sucks. so much feeling and love invested. Please read the whole thing before commenting. You will have a better understanding about how everything unfolded. Let me tell you the whole story from the start:
I started out as friends with her dad who is considerably older than I am. He and I worked together. We worked together for about 9 months before I found a better job. After that we lost contact.
I kept his number and when a great job offering came I called to offer it to him. We began hanging out again. He introduced me to his daughter Stephanie.
From the first moment that I saw her I fell in love. There is nothing not to love about her.
She and I became good friends, but I never made any moves because she never gave me any signs that she was interested. About 8 months ago she and I started "talking." We were in my car going for a drive when we both looked at eachother and felt a spark. Something happened in that moment that will forever change the rest of my life.
We started seeing eachother, unfortunatley behind her mom and stepfathers backs. They would not be understanding. She is 17 and I am 21. Looking at the ages like that dont seem bad at all. Nobody else saw a problem, but her parents are different. So we kept this secret from them.
We fell in love during the second month. I will never forget how it happened. She and I had talked about it and we didnt know if what we felt was love. We used to say stuff like "i love you........ in that shirt!" Stuff like that. Then one night she called me while I was having dinner with my dad and said "I think I am there..." and asked her what she ment... "I love you Tom." My heart filled up instantly and I told her the same.
About the third month we were together we started letting go a little in front of her parents. A little tickle here and there and sitting close together where ever we were. They asked if anything was going on and because of her stepdad we said no. They asked us to cool off with the touchy feely stuff in front of them. We did.
July was our fourth month together. We took a trip together up the coast from San Diego to San Francisco. It was a lot for her parents to let her go, I could tell, but they knew that we were good friends. On this trip I have more memories than I can count. We found a private beach together along the coastline near Big Sur. We spent about an hour exploring. We stayed in a rickety log cabin lodge where the only room left was the Honeymoon suite. We took it and upon arriving in our room we saw a not from the staff stating that the walls are 'paper thin' and the people in the rooms next to us could practically hear us breathe. The bed was too short for me and it was uncomfortable, but we were together and that is what mattered.
August was our 5th month together. Her dad stopped wanting to hang out with me and practically told her and her mom he didnt like me. That was fine though. We were together. I saw her less because he would think of other stuff she 'had' to do like watch her sisters. It was cool though. I saw her every day for lunch so we knew that we would have at least 30 min together daily. We continued to love eachother and spend every extra day and hour we could find. She didnt like the hiding though. It was a stress to her.
September was our 6th month together. This month actually. Things were going great. We had a strong loving relationship and we took care of eachother. We started feeling like we may be the one for eachother. Everything was great besides the sneaking around. Her dad had over the last few weeks started talking a lot of shit about me to her and her mom.
We now find ourselves in the end of september and a few days away from our 7 month anniversary.
Last Saturday her parents really layed into her hard about me. She denied everything as usual. She started doubting us. Saturday night she called me and told me that she didnt think it was working. She could not talk long so I told her that I love her and to call me in the morning. That night she told me that she put it in her head that it would be easier to be without me but the more she thought about it the sadder she got. Everything she did reminded her of me. She called me on Sunday and told me that we were going to be fine. Monday was fine but then yesterday, Tuesday, she was having doubts about what she wanted. We had our usual lunch together and spent most of it crying because we were not going to be together anymore. Then the spark happened again. We were kissing and she apologized and told me she loved me. I was feeling good again. Then 2 hours later she had doubts again.
She found that when she was with me she was able to see past her doubts and that they only came when she was alone. She said that she would see how she felt over the next day.
Then today she told me "Its Over... I cant do this."
The stress of everything had gotten to her. She didn't want to hide what we had and didnt want to try to fix it either. She started having doubts about us working because she was scared that when we did tell her parents and family that they would not understand or accept it. So its over.
She told me that she does see us together again in the future. She said that now is just not the time. She says that she doesnt want to be committed in a relationship. She wants to have fun, and she made it clear that she is not looking for anyone else. She wants to get her life on track. So we are on a break so to speak. But a break where we can see other people. I dont want that.
I am so lost over this. I love her with my whole heart and she told me the same but she doesnt want to hide it and she says that right now she doesnt want to fix it either. My friends tell me that even if she is with someone else she will only compare them to me and that she will be back. What do I do?
We still talk every night, just not as much. I activated a cell phone for her and I dont know if I should take it or not. I kind of want her to have it so we can talk, because when her dad is home i cant call the house phone. I feel like I need her.
Steph showed me so much. I now know what true love feels like. She helped me overcome some barriers that I thought were impossible. She became my everything and still is. Please someone show me some light on this topic.
All you relationship experts please speak up. Help me to see what I need to do. Obviously I want to fix this now and show her that everything will be cool. I even offered to tell her parents how I feel about her but she said that it will just make things worse with them.
Please help me. Thank you to those of you who read the whole story and everyone, please spart the smart ass comments. We have all been here and know how it feels. Please respect that.
Thank You.
-Tom
I started out as friends with her dad who is considerably older than I am. He and I worked together. We worked together for about 9 months before I found a better job. After that we lost contact.
I kept his number and when a great job offering came I called to offer it to him. We began hanging out again. He introduced me to his daughter Stephanie.
From the first moment that I saw her I fell in love. There is nothing not to love about her.
She and I became good friends, but I never made any moves because she never gave me any signs that she was interested. About 8 months ago she and I started "talking." We were in my car going for a drive when we both looked at eachother and felt a spark. Something happened in that moment that will forever change the rest of my life.
We started seeing eachother, unfortunatley behind her mom and stepfathers backs. They would not be understanding. She is 17 and I am 21. Looking at the ages like that dont seem bad at all. Nobody else saw a problem, but her parents are different. So we kept this secret from them.
We fell in love during the second month. I will never forget how it happened. She and I had talked about it and we didnt know if what we felt was love. We used to say stuff like "i love you........ in that shirt!" Stuff like that. Then one night she called me while I was having dinner with my dad and said "I think I am there..." and asked her what she ment... "I love you Tom." My heart filled up instantly and I told her the same.
About the third month we were together we started letting go a little in front of her parents. A little tickle here and there and sitting close together where ever we were. They asked if anything was going on and because of her stepdad we said no. They asked us to cool off with the touchy feely stuff in front of them. We did.
July was our fourth month together. We took a trip together up the coast from San Diego to San Francisco. It was a lot for her parents to let her go, I could tell, but they knew that we were good friends. On this trip I have more memories than I can count. We found a private beach together along the coastline near Big Sur. We spent about an hour exploring. We stayed in a rickety log cabin lodge where the only room left was the Honeymoon suite. We took it and upon arriving in our room we saw a not from the staff stating that the walls are 'paper thin' and the people in the rooms next to us could practically hear us breathe. The bed was too short for me and it was uncomfortable, but we were together and that is what mattered.
August was our 5th month together. Her dad stopped wanting to hang out with me and practically told her and her mom he didnt like me. That was fine though. We were together. I saw her less because he would think of other stuff she 'had' to do like watch her sisters. It was cool though. I saw her every day for lunch so we knew that we would have at least 30 min together daily. We continued to love eachother and spend every extra day and hour we could find. She didnt like the hiding though. It was a stress to her.
September was our 6th month together. This month actually. Things were going great. We had a strong loving relationship and we took care of eachother. We started feeling like we may be the one for eachother. Everything was great besides the sneaking around. Her dad had over the last few weeks started talking a lot of shit about me to her and her mom.
We now find ourselves in the end of september and a few days away from our 7 month anniversary.
Last Saturday her parents really layed into her hard about me. She denied everything as usual. She started doubting us. Saturday night she called me and told me that she didnt think it was working. She could not talk long so I told her that I love her and to call me in the morning. That night she told me that she put it in her head that it would be easier to be without me but the more she thought about it the sadder she got. Everything she did reminded her of me. She called me on Sunday and told me that we were going to be fine. Monday was fine but then yesterday, Tuesday, she was having doubts about what she wanted. We had our usual lunch together and spent most of it crying because we were not going to be together anymore. Then the spark happened again. We were kissing and she apologized and told me she loved me. I was feeling good again. Then 2 hours later she had doubts again.
She found that when she was with me she was able to see past her doubts and that they only came when she was alone. She said that she would see how she felt over the next day.
Then today she told me "Its Over... I cant do this."
The stress of everything had gotten to her. She didn't want to hide what we had and didnt want to try to fix it either. She started having doubts about us working because she was scared that when we did tell her parents and family that they would not understand or accept it. So its over.
She told me that she does see us together again in the future. She said that now is just not the time. She says that she doesnt want to be committed in a relationship. She wants to have fun, and she made it clear that she is not looking for anyone else. She wants to get her life on track. So we are on a break so to speak. But a break where we can see other people. I dont want that.
I am so lost over this. I love her with my whole heart and she told me the same but she doesnt want to hide it and she says that right now she doesnt want to fix it either. My friends tell me that even if she is with someone else she will only compare them to me and that she will be back. What do I do?
We still talk every night, just not as much. I activated a cell phone for her and I dont know if I should take it or not. I kind of want her to have it so we can talk, because when her dad is home i cant call the house phone. I feel like I need her.
Steph showed me so much. I now know what true love feels like. She helped me overcome some barriers that I thought were impossible. She became my everything and still is. Please someone show me some light on this topic.
All you relationship experts please speak up. Help me to see what I need to do. Obviously I want to fix this now and show her that everything will be cool. I even offered to tell her parents how I feel about her but she said that it will just make things worse with them.
Please help me. Thank you to those of you who read the whole story and everyone, please spart the smart ass comments. We have all been here and know how it feels. Please respect that.
Thank You.
-Tom